One of the most common questions parents ask is, “How will I know if play therapy is
working?” It’s a thoughtful and important question—but the answer may look different than
expected.
Because play therapy is a nonverbal, relationship-based process, change often unfolds gradually
and in subtle ways. Progress doesn’t always look like a child talking about their feelings directly
or “solving” the problem they were referred for within a few sessions. Instead, growth might
show up as small shifts in how your child plays, relates, or responds to everyday challenges.
You might notice your child becoming more flexible in their play, exploring new themes, or
showing less distress during separation. They may begin to regulate emotions more quickly after
upsets or express themselves in ways that feel more connected and clear. These moments are
meaningful signs that your child is processing and integrating their experiences.
It’s also normal to see ups and downs. Sometimes, children become more emotional or reactive
in the early stages of therapy—this doesn’t mean things are getting worse. Often, therapy is
giving them permission to express feelings they’ve been holding in, which can temporarily lead
to more visible behavior. With time and support, this emotional release becomes part of their
healing process.
It’s important to remember that every child moves at their own pace. Some changes may be
internal and not immediately noticeable at home. That’s why regular parent check-ins are built
into the process—to help you understand the deeper work that’s taking place and to celebrate
growth, even when it looks different than expected.
In play therapy, progress is less about “fixing” and more about unfolding. With patience and
trust, the small changes add up—and over time, you’ll begin to see your child becoming more
confident, connected, and resilient.