Play Therapy and ADHD: Meeting Kids Where They Are

For children with ADHD, the world often moves too fast—or not fast enough. They may
struggle with sitting still, following directions, managing emotions, or feeling successful in
environments that expect constant self-control. These challenges can lead to frustration, frequent
corrections, and a sense of being “too much.” Play therapy offers an alternative: a space where
the child isn’t expected to fit the environment—the environment is shaped around them.

Play therapy is developmentally appropriate for all children, and it can be especially beneficial
for kids with ADHD. Rather than focusing on compliance or behavior charts, play therapy
centers the child’s experience. The therapist creates a structured but flexible environment where
the child can lead the play, take risks, express big feelings, and receive consistent, calm
responses. This helps children feel safe—and when children feel safe, they can begin to regulate.

Many children with ADHD struggle with impulse control, emotional intensity, and rejection
sensitivity. In play therapy, these challenges are not punished or pathologized—they’re
understood. The therapist sets gentle, clear limits with empathy and respect, providing consistent,
compassionate responses that help children feel safer and more secure. This foundation allows
them to pause, reflect, and respond with greater flexibility as they explore new regulation
strategies. Over time, this can lead to increased frustration tolerance and emotional awareness.

Because ADHD can also impact a child’s self-esteem, play therapy is a powerful place to rebuild
that sense of self. When a child is allowed to lead, explore, and be accepted without being
corrected at every turn, they begin to see themselves differently—not as “bad,” but as capable,
curious, and worthy of connection.

Play therapy doesn’t try to train ADHD out of a child. Instead, it offers space for the child to
better understand themselves, practice regulation with support, and feel deeply accepted. And
when that happens, true growth begins—not because the child is being pushed to change, but
because they feel safe enough to.